This week I was asked, "What specifically gives you a sense of purpose in your role?". This was for my day job and I began along the lines of 'working with others'.
It got me thinking, is this why some of us can't work on our own?
Think about it: when it's just you, it can be a lot easier to put off tasks, dreams, goals and talk yourself out of doing anything. But if you have to report back to someone - a gym buddy, a life coach, a piano teacher - you're more likely to get up and do it. Even if initially you had already talked yourself out of it, that other person can talk you back in and keep momentum up.
Some people, though, do choose to talk you out, and sometimes, you listen.
For some reason, your own validation of what's important to you, and what gives your life a sense of purpose, can hold less value than the validation that others place on it.
Read that again.
Humans are social beings. It's completely natural that other people will influence and impact your life, and that we want to fit in. And to a certain extent, that's a good thing.
Your sense of purpose in life might feel EASIER if it has the approval of others. Take advantage of this and surround yourself with those people.
But they don't have the power to VALIDATE your sense of purpose.
If those around you aren't supportive of your dreams, that doesn't invalidate them. Validating, by definition, is to prove the accuracy of something. No one has the power to do that but YOU.
You and only you have the power of proving the accuracy of your sense of purpose in life.
You and only you determine the strength of that sense of purpose, to drive your goals and make them your reality.
You and only you is enough validation that your life goals can come true.