Quitting always is seen in a negative light. Like it got too hard, so you threw the towel in and gave up. But don’t underestimate the good power of quitting…
Some goals take a lot of work. They either need to be really important to you or you have a really strong driving force to help and push you through the tougher times.
If you don’t have that, then it’s probably not right for you. Simple as that.
Sometimes you might start something, and realise that actually, it doesn’t mean as much to you as you thought. Your time is precious - why waste your time on such things? Give it up.
Sometimes you might start something, and realise it’s not at all what you were expecting. It’s no longer what you want. It’s good that you tried and gave it a shot. You got more information to make a better, informed decision. And that decision is, it’s not right for you. Give it up.
Sometimes it’s necessary to give something up for your physical health. Smoking, alcohol, unhealthy-to-you foods - go give it up.
Sometimes you need to give something up for your mental health. A toxic relationship with someone, a job, a project. Saying yes too much. You gotta give it up.
Just because you may have invested a lot of time and money into something (generally the 2 biggest reasons people give as to why they haven’t given up yet) doesn’t mean you have to see it through. They’re big reasons to think hard about it, but not enough if it’s the wrong path for you.
I’ll give you a real life example. A client of mine started their uni degree full-time straight from school. They then got themselves a job to fill in their spare time. They started enjoying their work and began working up in the company, and decided to turn their studies to part-time. After a few years, $20k of uni debt already, they couldn’t decide whether to rack up another $25k of debt finishing the degree, which was unrelated to their work, or give it up and just focus on their work, which they had no intention of leaving and had the option to go full-time.
What would you do?
After 2 years of deliberating, pressure from parents and having deferred their degree, they’ve decided to drop out. They’re in their mid-twenties now, and that degree just doesn’t seem as important to them anymore, now that their career is established and the degree isn’t relevant to their new path. They decided that studying just wasn’t suited to them, and they are more successful in life doing something else.
Learning what does and doesn’t suit you takes trial and error. It’s a process of growing older, finding out about yourself and understanding yourself more, and trying new things.
And giving up is absolutely a big part of this process.