20-somethings can't be life coaches.

Well, haven’t I heard this before. Thing is, people who say this don’t fully understand what they’re saying. Let me explain…

On the surface, ‘Life Coach’ implies a coach on life. You’d assume you need life experience for this. And 20-somethings, generally, haven’t lived enough time to have this. The same criteria is required to enter the police force. So, a valid point.

This is why I kind of dislike the title ‘life coach’ though, because, that’s absolutely not what good life coaches do.

We don’t coach on life.

How can anyone coach someone else’s life?

What we actually do is ask you questions, for you to figure out your life yourself. So, in the certified qualification I spent a year attaining, with practical, mentored experience, I learnt a very specific way to guide and help people figure their own life out, through simply, the power of questions.

For comparison, I’ve experienced being on the receiving end of both life coaching and therapy. Both look quite similar in several ways:

  1. Both ask questions.

  2. Both don’t give advice.

  3. Both are non-judgemental.

  4. This space, is confidential.

Where life coaching differs, is that it is more future-focused, less concerned with the past (although we take lessons from the past and apply them to future decisions), and is generally more action-based. You can effectively apply this to any area of your life - career coach, mental health coach, or in my created niche, wedding coach - so I guess that’s why it has the general title ‘life' coach.

Yet I’ve heard a many of times that 20-somethings can’t be life coaches. 20-somethings somehow can grow a career as a therapist though.

It’s simply all in the title.

With ANY career, life experience will generally help you. But it’s not a specific requirement of a life coach to have life experience.

The point - I vote a title change!

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